The Steve Phillips - Brooke Hundley Affair Should Make Cheating Men Think Twice

The Steve Phillips - Brooke Hundley infidelity scandal should make other cheating husbands very, very afraid..

ESPN analyst Steve Phillips had a brief affair with Brooke Hundley, a 22-year-old ESPN production assistant.

When Phillips ended their short-lived sexual affair, Hundley proceeded to stalk Phillips’ 16 year old son and harass, Marni Phillips, his wife.

How Brooke Hundley Harassed Steve Phillips’ Family

Brooke Hundley harassed the Phillips family to the point that they feared for their safety and were to file a police report. Scroll down for links to copies of the 3 official police reports made by Marni Phillips, Steve Phillips, and their 16 year old son.

Below are some of the things Brooke Hundley did:

● She behaved irrationally and erratically behavior when Steve Phillips broke off the affair.

● She repeatedly called Phillips home and harassed Phillips’ wife Marni.

● She wrote a graphic letter to Marni Phillips with intimate details about the affair.

● She drove to Phillips home, parked in their driveway and personally placed the letter in their front door.

● When Marni Phillips wife encountered Hundley on the Phillips’ property returning to her car, Hundley backed into a stone column and drove across their lawn.

● She impersonated a classmate of the Phillips’ 16 year old son, contacted him through Facebook, corresponded with him for weeks, pumping him for details about their family, their daily routine and where they lived.

● She obtained detailed information about the kind of vehicles Phillips’ wife and son drove.

● She claimed that she went to the oldest son’s football practice, but was unable to locate him.

NOTE: This illustrates why I strongly recommend that a wife run a background check on her husband’s mistress so she’ll know what kind of person he’s dealing with. See the article entitled What You Need to Know About Your Husband’s Mistress and Why. But a cheating husband also needs to check his mistress out. Continue reading and you’ll see why.

Links to Official Documents Related to the Steve Phillips - Brooke Hundley Affair

● Letter from Brooke Hundley to Marni, Steve Phillips’ wife
● Police statement from Marni Phillips
● Police statement from the Phillips’ 16 year old son
● Police statement from Steve Phillips

A Cheating Man Would Do Well to Check His Mistress Out

Most cheating husbands or boyfriends know very little about the mistresses they are cheating with. They don’t even bother to run a simple online background check on the woman before they get involved.

These days there’s no excuse, because it’s easy to run a discreet online background check on anyone from your own computer in the privacy of your own home.

The $30 or $40 it costs to check out the woman he’s sleeping with, or intends to start sleeping with could turn out to be the best investment a cheating man will ever make. For less than what costs to wine and dine a mistress, or rent a hotel room, a cheating man can find out the answers to the questions below about his mistress, find out what kind of person he’s dealing with.

How Much Do You Know About Your Mistress?

Mistresses usually have ulterior motives. What are your mistress’s real motives for getting involved with you, knowing that you’re already married or in a committed relationship? What does she expect from you in return? And most importantly, what kind of reputation does she have?

● If it’s a workplace affair, is she hoping to get ahead or advance on the job?

● What is her financial situation? Has she ever filed for bankruptcy?

● Is she a “gold digger with a history of hooking up with married men?

● Is she financially strapped and looking for someone to pay her bills or supplement her income? (Like Sahel Kazemi and Steve McNair)

● Is she planning to get pregnant so she can collect child support payments from you for the 18 years? (Like Rielle Hunter with John Edwards)

● Does she expect you to set her up as a “kept woman” so she’ll never have to work again?

● Does she have a jealous or vindictive husband or boyfriend waiting in the wings? (Like Stephanie Birkitt and David Letterman)

● Is she looking to get her “15 minutes of fame” through her association with you? ( Like Rielle Hunter with John Edwards)

● Does she keep a diary, a journal, or photos, or other mementos of the affair that someone could discover one day and try to blackmail you? (Like Stephanie Birkitt and David Letterman)

● Will the safety of your wife, or your children be compromised when you end the affair?

● If you break up with her, how will she react? Will she ruin your reputation, blackmail you, destroy your marriage? Will she try to seek revenge? See article entitled More Women are Resorting to Violent Acts of Revenge.

● Is she the type to become homicidal or suicidal if things don’t go her way? Will you end up another casualty like Steve McNair?)

NOTE: This is just a partial list. For a complete list of 35 questions a cheating husband needs to ask himself about his mistress, see the article entitled Brooke Hundley’s Behavior Raises Questions Every Cheating Man Should Ask About His Mistress on my National Infidelity Examiner page at Examiner.com.

A Background Check on Your Mistress May Cause You to Mend Your Cheating Ways

If you’re cheating, or thinking about cheating, run a background check on your mistress ( or your intended mistress). It can benefit you in several ways:

1. If you’re contemplating having an affair, a discreet background check may give you second thoughts about cheating on your wife.

2. The results of a background check may strengthen your resolve to end your affair.

3. A background check may help you realize the affair is not worth the trouble it could cause.

4. If you’re already cheating, a background check can alert you to the fact that you need to put protective measures in place to ensure your safety and the safety of your family.

NOTE: For a reputable and affordably priced service that allows you to run a discreet and confidential background check, visit http://www.cheatingspousebackgroundcheck.com/

David Letterman Breaks Rules of Engagement for Workplace Affairs

When two workmates become romantically or sexually involved, keeping things on a professional level will help minimize many of the problems that workplace romances usually cause.

But by becoming sexually involved with Stephanie Birkitt, Holly Hester, and other female members of his staff, David Letterman broke two of the cardinal rules governing workplace romance.

Rule #1 - Never become romantically (or sexually) involved with a person in your direct chain of command. (In other words – no boss – subordinate relationships)

Rule #2 - Never get involved in a workplace romance if either one of you married or in a committed relationship.

If reports of Letterman having a love nest above his studio are true, then he broke a 3rd cardinal rule as well.

Rule # 3 - Never engage in sex on company property.

Letterman could have saved himself a lot embarrassment, and avoided a alleged blackmail attempt by Robert Halderman, if he’d followed the rules of engagement for workplace romance. The complete list of Rules of Engagement for Office Affairs and Workplace Romance appears below.

NOTE: For more observations about David Letterman’s sexual escapades from an infidelity expert’s point of view, see

Best Course of Action Regarding Workplace Romance

The best course of action to follow when it comes to a workplace romance is not to have one. The risks greatly outweigh the rewards. But workmates who are sexually attracted to each other rarely follow this advice. Interestingly enough, David Letterman actually seems to have adhered very strictly to some of the rules on the list below.

If you’re currently involved in a workplace romance, or tempted to become involved in one, familiarize yourself with the rules of engagement governing office romances and workplace affairs. The guidelines below will help you keep things on a professional level and minimize the damage most workplace romances can cause.

The Rules of Engagement for Office Affairs and Workplace Romance
© copyright 2005 - 2009 Ruth Houston

● Never get involved with someone in your direct chain of command.

● Never get involved in an office affair if either of you are married or in a committed relationship .

● Confine your romantic attachments to someone who is a peer, rather than someone above or below you in rank.

● Know your company’s policy regarding office romance.

● Never underestimate the power of the office grapevine. Try to keep your office romance a secret, if you can.

● Keep it low key – don’t flaunt the fact that the two of you are romantically involved.

● Avoid public displays of affection – it’s highly unprofessional.

● Don’t gossip about your love life.

● Do not exchange embarrassing or ostentatious flowers, cards or gifts. (Small, discreet, tasteful gifts are okay.)

● Do not allow your office romance to interfere with productivity – yours, your partner’s or your coworkers.

● Do not use company e-mail to send passionate or suggestive love notes to each other.

● Do not leave X-rated voice mails on each other’s phones.

● Don’t show or request favoritism regarding work assignments, raises, promotions or company perks.

● Do not use company funds to entertain your partner.

● Refrain from overt sexual behavior on the job.

● Never engage in sex on company property. (That includes stair wells, supply closets and company parking lots.)

● Have a back-up career plan in case things take a negative turn. Be prepared to find another job.

*** © copyright 2005 - 2009 Ruth Houston

For more information on the topic of workplace romance, office affairs, and workplace or work spouse infidelity, visit my National Infidelity Examiner pages at http://www.examiner.com/x-17416-Infidelity-Examiner to see the see the following related articles, or click on the links below:

Tell David Letterman Infidelity is No Joke

Do Work Spouse Relationships Lead to Workplace Affairs?

14 Ways Your Work Spouse Relationship Could Sabotage Your Career

5 Infidelity Trends Likely to Affect You

Business Travel And Infidelity - How Cheating Men Use Business Travel to Hide Their Affairs


For more information about infidelity, cheating mates, or extramarital affairs, visit

http://ishecheatingonyou.blogspot.com/

http://infidelityadvice.blogspot.com/

http://FREEInfidelityTipSheets.blogspot.com

The Good Wife - Proof That Infidelity is a Spectator Sport

It doesn’t surprise me that The Good Wife is predicted to be this season’s most popular new TV show.

In fact, it only confirms what I’ve been saying for the past few years:

Infidelity has become the new spectator sport.

The Good Wife, with its theme about a cheating politician’s wife, is definitely a TV series whose time has come.

A Recurring, but Popular Theme

Given the popularity of The Good Wife’s subject matter, husband and wife writing team, Robert and Michelle King seem to have come up with a real winner. The show should have widespread appeal.

Inspired by an ever- increasing list of cheating politicians constantly making front page news, this show, staring Julianna Margulies as Alicia Florrick, the cheating politician’s wife, is destined to be a big hit.

The Good Wife is a perfect example of art imitating life. The theme of the show, and the opening scene is one we’ve seen played out many times -- infidelity in the political arena, a cheating politician making a public statement, the cheating politician’s wife standing silently beside him as he apologizes or confesses all.

A Burning Interest in All Things Infidelity

As an infidelity expert frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news, I can personally attest to the public’s voracious appetite for information of any kind about infidelity, cheating spouses or an extramarital affairs – especially when a politician is involved.

Whenever a politician at any level of the government - local, state, and federal - cheats, or is rumored to be cheating on his wife, the public wants know every detail as the drama unfolds.

The same thing holds true if the cheater is a celebrity, sports figure, entertainer, corporate executive, or someone else in the public eye.

As I said: Infidelity has become a spectator sport.

It’s a recurring theme in most forms of entertainment, including soap operas, TV talk shows, movies, and best-selling novels

Editors, reporters, producers, radio and TV talk show hosts know that adding an infidelity element to the mix, almost guarantees an increase in viewers, listeners, or readers.

That’s why The Good Wife is predicted to be a hit.

Why Infidelity Has Universal Appeal

Infidelity is so widespread now, that unfortunately, most people can relate to it in some way. Everyone has at least one friend, relative, or co-worker who is cheating, or has been cheated on. Many people have been victims of infidelity themselves.

A USA Today/Gallup poll reported that 54% of Americans said they knew someone who had a cheating spouse.

If you factor in the number of unmarried people in committed relationships who are cheating on their mates, that percentage increases to somewhere around 75% - 80%.

If you take an average of the infidelity studies, statistics, surveys and polls from the last 5 to 7 years, it becomes clear that infidelity in one form or another (physical or sexual infidelity, emotional infidelity, online or internet infidelity, female infidelity, same-sex infidelity, workplace infidelity) affects an estimated 80% of all marriages and committed relationships today.

The Good Wife is Worth Watching

Starring Julianna Margulies, Chris Noth, and Christine Baranski, The Good Wife is well worth watching -- if for no other reason than to see how closely art imitates life, and to confirm that infidelity really has become a spectator sport.

For more information about infidelity, cheating politicians, cheating politician’s wives, and extramarital affairs, see

Why Politicians Cheat and What Their Wives Can Do

Why Women Stay with Men Who Cheat

Jenny Sanford Shows Betrayed Wives How to Take a Firm Stand

How Wives with Cheating Husbands Can Gain the Upper Hand (free tip sheet)

Go or Stay? – How to Decide Whether to Give A Cheater a Second Chance (free tip sheet)

An Infidelity Expert’s Comments on Jenny Sanford’s Vogue Interview and the Sanford Affair

What the Sanford Affair Can Teach Us about Emotional Infidelity

William Taylor's "I Cheated" Sign and Revenge

This week, a creative case of revenge in the state of Virginia, has received media attention around the world.

The wife of a man calling himself “William Taylor”, ordered her cheating husband to stand on a busy street with a big sign around his neck that read “I cheated. This is my punishment.”

What She Did vs What She Could Have Done

Considering some of the things other women have done to get revenge on their cheating mates, Taylor is a lucky man. See the article entitled How Betrayed Wives and Other Infidelity Victims Get Revenge on Their Cheating Mates.

Taylor’s wife could have glued his penis to his stomach with Krazy Glue like the 4 women in Wisconsin earlier this month as punishment for his cheating ways.

She could have poured boiling water on his genital area like the New York wife a few weeks ago, whose cheating husband suffered second and third degree burns.

She could have cut off his penis like Lorena Bobbitt did to her husband several years ago.

Taylor may have been embarrassed to stand there with a sign around his neck proclaiming his infidelity for all the world to see, but at least he wasn’t harmed in any way.

At least his wife chose a non-violent form of revenge to even the score. See the article entitled More Women Are Resorting to Violent Acts of Revenge.

The Urge to Seek Revenge

It’s not uncommon for a woman who has been cheated on to experience an overwhelming desire for revenge.

When the shock and disbelief of infidelity wears off, the hurt and anger that follow are usually accompanied by a strong urge to seek revenge.

Some people are able to control this urge. But others feel compelled to even the score.

Harmless Forms of Revenge

Some forms of revenge are relatively harmless:

--- hiding one cufflink from every pair he owns.

--- posting his name, picture and the details of his infidelity on one or more of the websites that allow women to report cheating men

--- spreading rumors that he’s a lousy lover

--- making him stand on a busy street with an “I cheated” sign around his neck.

These things may annoy, embarrass or inconvenience the cheater; but they don’t cause any real harm. And they allow you to feel vindicated, so you can move on with your life.

But some forms of revenge can get you in serious trouble or land you in jail.

If you feel that you absolutely must do something to even the score, avoid doing anything that's illegal, violent, destructive, or criminal to get revenge on your cheating mate.

Legal Ways to Get Revenge

There’s no need to resort to violence or illegal activities to get revenge on a cheater, when there are legal, financial, and non-violent methods of accomplishing the same thing.

If you’re that determined to get revenge on a cheating mate, or even the score, do it without breaking the law. To request a free copy of the tip sheet entitled How to Legally or Financially Get Revenge on a Cheating Spouse, e-mail mailto:InfidelityInfo@gmail.comwith “revenge - b” in the subject line.

For more information on infidelity, revenge, and extramarital affairs, see

How Betrayed Wives and Other Infidelity Victims Get Revenge on Their Cheating Mates

More Women are Resorting to Violent Acts of Revenge

How to Legally or Financially Get Revenge on a Cheating Spouse (free tip sheet)

3 Types of Revenge Cheating or Retaliatory Affairs

http://getrevenge-gettingrevenge.blogspot.com/

How Wives with Cheating Husbands Can Gain the Upper Hand (free tip sheet)

Comments on Jenny Sanford’s Vogue Interview

As an infidelity expert frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news, I’d like to comment on a few points from Jenny Sanford’s interview in Vogue magazine about her husband, Mark Sanford’s infidelity.

My comments and observations are based on my 16 years of ongoing infidelity research, which include thousands of consultations and interviews with male and female victims of infidelity, cheaters of both sexes, as well as other professionals in the field.

Below are excerpts from my comments and observations on Jenny Sanford’s Vogue interview. For my complete analysis of Jenny Sanford’s interview in the September 2009 issue of Vogue magazine, click here, or visit my NY Infidelity Examiner column at
http://www.examiner.com/x-17416-NY-Infidelity-Examiner

VOGUE: For the record, Jenny Sanford and most of her friends were as shocked as the rest of America when they learned about the governor’s affair with an Argentinean divorcée. Finding evidence of the affair last January in a stack of papers was, she says, a shock. “It never occurred to me that he would do something like that.

Never underestimate a man’s susceptibility to infidelity. Like many wives, Jenny didn’t think her husband was capable of having an extramarital affair. In fact, in one interview she even commented that she didn’t think he had it in him.

Good marriages are not immune to infidelity, and even happy husbands cheat too.

Three separate infidelity studies published last year in prestigious medical journals confirmed that no marriage is immune to infidelity if the right (or wrong) circumstances come into play. See my Examiner articles entitled Happy Husbands Cheat Too and Why the Wife is Still the Last to Know.

JENNY SANFORD: “Over the course of both pastoral and marriage counseling, it became clear to me that he was just obsessed with going to see this woman. I have learned that these affairs are almost like an addiction to alcohol or pornography. They just can’t break away from them.”

The Sanford affair started out as an innocent friendship, and took 8 years to developed into an emotional affair, which quickly progressed to sexual infidelity. Emotional infidelity just like a drug or alcohol addiction. Once a cheating husband develops a dual emotional/sexual bond with his mistress, like Sanford’s bond to Maria Belen Chapur, he does indeed become obsessed. These are the most difficult affairs to overcome. See my Examiner article entitled What the Sanford Affair can Teach Us about Emotional Infidelity

Jenny Sanford has far more insight into the dynamics of her husband’s affair than their counselors and advisors, who failed to prepare Sanford for the withdrawal symptoms, and the onslaught of emotions he would experience after ending his affair.

VOGUE: Even so, like the rest of America, she and a friend couldn’t resist Googling the woman at the center of the firestorm. “What woman wouldn’t want to know what her husband’s mistress looks like?” asks the friend. (Sanford’s reported verdict: “She’s pretty.”)

Most women have a natural curiosity about the person their husband or boyfriend is cheating with. There’s nothing wrong with this as long as the curiosity doesn’t turn into a morbid obsession.

Another question that lurks in the background of every betrayed wife’s mind is “Will he leave me for her?” For more on this, see the article entitled Will He Leave You for Her?

I also feel that it vitally important for a wife to know certain things about her husband’s mistress, in order to insure the safety and well-being of her family.

Is the mistress violent, or aggressive like Joey Buttafuco’s teenage mistress, Amy Fisher, who shot Joey’s wife, Mary Jo Buttafuoco in the head?

Is she mentally unstable or emotionally fragile like Steve McNair’s mistress Sahel Kazemi, who shot and killed Steve, then turned the gun on herself?

Is she seeking fame or fortune? Does she have ulterior motives? John Edwards’ mistress, Rielle Hunter comes to mind.

Some mistresses will threaten or harass their lover and his family, long after he ends the affair. Will the wife and children need to get an order of protection? This is just a small sample of what a wife needs to know. For more information about this, see the Examiner article entitled What You Need to Know About Your Husband’s Mistress and Why.

To read my complete analysis of Jenny Sanford’s Vogue interview, click here, or visit my NY Infidelity Examiner column at http://www.examiner.com/x-17416-NY-Infidelity-Examiner

Other articles related to Jenny Sanford’s Vogue interview and the Sanford Affair include:

Jenny Sanford Shows Betrayed Wives How to Take a Firm Stand

What Ordinary Women Do When their Husbands Cheat,

Why Women Stay with Men Who Cheat

Go or Stay? – How to Decide Whether to Give a Cheater a Second Chance (free tip sheet)

*** © copyright 2009 Ruth Houston

Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news. She is the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and blogs at Infidelity News and Views.

Why Sanford Thinks Maria is His Soul Mate

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Why Sanford Thinks Maria is His Soul Mate

Commenting on the Sanford affair from the standpoint of someone who has been researching infidelity for the past 15 years, ( and as an infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment infidelity issues in the news), I would like point out the reason South Carolina Gov Mark Sanford thinks his Argentinean mistress, Maria Belen Chapur, is his “soul mate.”

Sanford is convinced that his Argentinean mistress is his “soul mate” because he is in the throes of an extramarital affair in which there is a dual emotional/sexual bond.

Sanford’s behavior, embarrassing as it may be, is typical behavior for a cheating husband who has formed a strong emotional attachment to the person with whom he is having an affair.

Sanford has stated that his affair began as an innocent e-mail exchange between friends. It took 8 years for this friendship to become an emotional affair, then progress to a sexual affair. Sanford is dealing with the mental anguish associated with trying to break an extremely strong emotional bond that took 8 years to form.
(For more information about Emotional Infidelity, click here)

Withdrawal Symptoms will Occur

A cheating husband who has become emotionally bonded to his mistress will experience withdrawal symptoms upon ending the affair.

His heart will ache for his mistress.

He will miss her, yearn for her, long to see her.

He will go through a period of depression.

He will be convinced (in his mind) that the mistress was his soul mate, the love of his life.

He will experience misgivings about trying to reconcile with his wife.

He Should Have Been Told What to Expect After Ending His Affair

Sanford's advisors were remiss in not telling him what to expect.

If the cheater is not told beforehand what to expect, he may (like Sanford) exhibit erratic behavior or act in unpredictable ways. This explains Sanford’s secret trip to Argentina, the press conference in which he confessed his affair, and the interview in which he spoke of his mistress as being his soul mate.

The proper way to terminate an extramarital affair is for the cheating husband to immediately sever all ties and have no further contact with the Other Woman. If the cheater is not told beforehand what to expect after he does this ( as apparently Sanford was not), he will give in to the urge to communicate with his mistress, or to see her “just one more time.”

He is also likely to misinterpret his feelings to mean that perhaps he has made a mistake in trying to reconcile with his wife and get his marriage back on track.

A cheating husband should be warned in advance of what to expect. He needs to understand that the intense feelings he is about to experience are a normal part of the grieving process for the loss of an affair. Thus informed, he will be more likely to “tough it out” until his feelings subside. He will be better able to resist the urge to see his mistress again, or his desire to resurrect the affair because he will realize that this is just a phase he is going through.

If Sanford can successfully get past the grieving process, he will realize that the 8- year bond he had with his mistress can in no way surpass the bond he has with his wife of 20 years and the mother of his four sons.

Jenny Sanford Understands

The position Jenny Sanford has taken shows that unlike Sanford, or his advisors, she has remarkable insight into what is happening to her husband as a result of his affair.

She seems to understand that once his feelings subside, as they most certainly will with time, Sanford will be able to devote himself wholeheartedly to the business of regaining her trust and rebuilding their marriage.

Despite the hurt, humiliation and heartbreak Jenny Sanford has undoubtedly experienced as a result of her husband’s behavior, she is willing to forgive him when he comes to his senses and allow him to make amends and begin the hard work of getting his marriage back on track.

Jenny Sanford is to be commended for serving as a role model to betrayed wives everywhere. She has shown the world how a wife with a cheating husband can lay the groundwork for saving her marriage without sacrificing her dignity and self respect. (NOTE: For details see the article entitled, If He’s Cheating, Take a Firm Stand. )

More information related to the Sanford Affair

For more information about Emotional infidelity, click here for the article entitled
Emotional Infidelity Can Lead to Sexual Infidelity

For more observations on the Sanford affair from an infidelity experts point of view, click here for the article entitled
The Sanford Affair – An Infidelity Expert’s Observations

For insight into why Sanford secretly flew to Argentina to see Maria Belen Chapur, click here for the press release entitled
Why Sanford Kept Sneaking Off to See His Mistress – An Infidelity Expert Reveals the Truth

For an in depth look at the steps Jenny Sanford is taking to pave the way for saving her marriage, click here to see the article entitled
If He’s Cheating, Take a Firm Stand.

The Sanford Affair – an Infidelity Expert’s Observations

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or visit my page at Examiner.com
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The Sanford Affair – an Infidelity Expert’s Observations

As an infidelity expert frequently called on by the media to comment popular infidelity issues and infidelity breaking news, I’d like to share some observations on South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford’s Affair:

The Danger Of Opposite Sex Friendships

Sanford’s affair highlights the danger of opposite sex friendships, and how they can undermine a marriage if they turn into emotional affairs. Most people underestimate the danger of close friendships with members of the opposite sex, because they start out innocently, and in the early stages, no sex involved.

Very often, the person involved in a friendship of this type does not realize how much of a threat it can be to his or her marriage or relationship.

If the situation is not put into check, the bonds formed in a friendship like this will become stronger and stronger until they progress to emotional infidelity, which is the precursor to sexual infidelity.

If cultivated and nurtured over a period of weeks, months and years, an innocent friendship between close friends of the opposite sex can escalate into an extramarital affair. This is exactly what happened between Mark Sanford and his Argentinean mistress Maria Belen Chapur.

For more information on how insidious emotional infidelity can be, click here, or visit http://infidelityadvice.blogspot.com/2009/04/emotional-infidelity-can-lead-to-sexual.html

Today’s opposite sex friendship can quickly become tomorrow’s extramarital affair. Friendships with members of the opposite sex need to be monitored very closely, and checks and balances need to be put in place. Otherwise they can quickly cross the line.

Many have found the Emotional Infidelity Quiz and Tip Sheet very helpful in making sure that their (or their partner’s) opposite sex friendship is not in the danger zone. The tip sheet that accompanies the quiz suggests several checks and balances that can be put into place to keep an opposite sex friendship from becoming an emotional affair. For a free copy of the Emotional Infidelity Quiz and Tip Sheet, e-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with the words “Emotional –bSan” in the subject line.

The Difficulties a Cheating Politician’s Wife Faces in Making a Decision

Betrayed wives like Jenny Sanford are faced with the decision of trying to decide whether or not to give the cheating spouse a second chance. It’s not an easy decision to make. While the wives of many cheating politicians stay with their husbands, there are some wives who choose to leave. Dina McGreevey and Terry Mahoney come to mind.

For a discussion of some of the reasons cheating politician’s wives and other women choose to stay with a cheating mate, click here, or visit http://infidelityadvice.blogspot.com/2009/05/why-elizabeth-edwards-and-other-wives.html

For a discussion of what ordinary women do when their husbands cheat, click here, or visit http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com/2008/08/what-ordinary-women-do-when-their.html

Regardless of a betrayed wife’s final choice, many factors are taken into consideration before a final decision is made on the best course of action to take. First and foremost are the attitude of the cheater, and the circumstances of the affair.

If a wife who has been a victim of infidelity decides to stay with her husband, there are two major obstacles she will face, which are mentioned here.

http://freeinfidelitytipsheets.blogspot.com/2009/05/stay-with-cheater-or-leave-him-new-tip.html

The Go or Stay Tip Sheet points out some of the key factors a wife should consider when deciding whether to leave a cheating husband, or give him a second chance. It also covers the two biggest obstacles to taking a cheating spouse back, and offers suggestions on how these obstacles can be overcome. To request a FREE copy of the Go or Stay Tip Sheet, e-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with the words “Go or Stay-bSan” in the subject line.

Why Politicians Cheat

As usual, when a cheating politician makes the news, we ask ourselves the question: Why do politicians cheat?

Having done several interviews in the past two days addressing this question, I’d like to repeat that the reasons politicians cheat are as varied as the politicians themselves.

For a discussion of the 5 most common reasons politicians cheat, click here or visit
http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com/2009/06/5-reasons-why-politicians-cheat.html

For more on why politicians cheat and what their wives can do click here, or visit http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com/2008/03/cheating-politicians-why-politicians.html

It’s interesting to note that Gov. Sanford’s affair differs from that of the usual cheating politician. From the e-mail exchange between Sanford and his mistress, it’s obvious clear that this was no mere sexual fling. Sanford was clearly a man in love. This was a deep emotional bond that developed over a period of several years.

What it Will Take to Make the Sanford Marriage Work

Sanford’s wife, Jenny has expressed her willingness to forgive her husband, and I sincerely wish them both well. They have a long, arduous task ahead. An extramarital affair like Mark Sanford’s which involves a dual sexual / emotional bond is far more difficult to recover from than an affair based primarily on sex. It will require very strong commitment on both their parts. But both Sanfords seem determined to make their marriage work. Again, I wish them well.