Tuesday, June 26, 2007
If you think your husband or boyfriend could be one of the 3 types of men most likely to have a summer fling, (described in my post of June 21st ) you’ll no doubt want to take steps to safeguard your marriage or relationship from summer infidelity. Fortunately, since these men are not habitual cheaters, there are some precautionary measures you can take. Normally these men are faithful and wouldn’t even consider cheating on their mates any other time of the year. But they’re highly susceptible to summer flings. Not only is the temptation greater, it’s easier to cheat during the summer and not get caught.
However, if the situation looks too risky, or he feels he can’t pull it off without getting caught, the would-be summer cheater won’t take the chance. Or if he’s pleasantly preoccupied with something else, cheating will be the last thing on his mind. So if you know what he’s up to, you can easily divert his attention, or put a few obstacles in his path.
The 3 Keys to Avoiding Summer Infidelity
There are 3 keys to safeguarding your marriage or relationship and avoid becoming a victim of summer infidelity.
1. Be sure you know how to spot the signs of summer infidelity, whether the affair is in the planning stage or already taking place.
2. Familiarize yourself with the tactics cheating husbands and boyfriends use to hide their summer affairs. ( See the my post of June 23, or visit www.SummerInfidelity.com
3. Don’t make it easy for him to cheat. The free Summer Infidelity tip sheet offered at www.SummerInfidelity.com has several checks and balances you can easily (and discreetly) put into place to keep from becoming a victim of summer infidelity.
How to Short-Circuit His Summer Fling
If you see signs that a summer fling is about to develop, or signs of summer infidelity already taking place, SPEAK UP right away. Let your husband or boyfriend know that you’re onto him and tell him you want it to stop. In most cases, that will take the wind out of his sails. Part of the appeal of a summer fling, is the thrill of doing something forbidden without getting caught. Once it’s been discovered, the game is over. Once it’s out in the open, the affair loses its appeal.
A Fatal Mistake
Some women may be inclined to ignore summer infidelity. After all, summer flings usually have a built in expiration date. But treating his summer fling lightly could prove to be a fatal mistake. If you don’t let him know you’re aware of what’s going on, he’ll think he successfully pulled it off without getting caught. And he won’t hesitate to do it again next year.
Worst Case Scenario
What could be worse than a repeat performance next year? Instead of ending when summer is over, his summer fling could become a permanent state of affairs. Your husband or boyfriend could become so attached to his summer love that he leaves you, moves in with her, or asks you for a divorce. So take action before things get out of hand.
More on Dealing with Summer Infidelity
Check out the summer infidelity article posted at www.SummerInfidelity.com to see how 3 wives found out about their husband’s summer flings, and how one wife successfully dealt with the “separate vacation scam.”
FREE Summer Infidelity Tip Sheet
To request a FREE copy of the Summer Infidelity tip sheet with tips on how to spot the signs of summer infidelity, and how to short-circuit a summer fling in progress or or prevent your husband or boyfriend from having a summer affair, e-mail SummerInfidelity@gmail.com with the words “Summer Infidelity-3” in the subject line.
Saturday, June 23, 2007
NOTE: Not every man who travels or sends his wife on a summer vacation is setting the stage for a summer fling. But being aware of the tactics summer cheaters use can help you safeguard your marriage or relationship, and avoid becoming an unsuspecting victim of summer infidelity. For more ways to spot or prevent summer infidelity, get a copy of my Summer Infidelity tip sheet. (It's free.)
Sending the wife ( and Kids) Away
Some husbands routinely send their wife and kids to the beach, the lake, the mountains, the country, or to visit relatives in another state. Or a man may treat his wife or girlfriend to a trip he knows she can’t resist (a Caribbean cruise, a week at a world-class spa or fancy resort) It’s an effective way to pave the way for “summer play.” Not only has he conveniently removed you from the scene without a fight, he also earns points for being a generous and thoughtful mate. But what’s he up to once you’re safely out of the way? Where is he? Who is he with? How is he spending his time? Consult the free Summer Infidelity tip sheet to find out how to make sure he’s not trying to run a summer scam.
The Separate Vacation Scheme
Has your spouse or significant other suddenly suggested that the two of you take separate vacations this year? Is he a little too insistent about getting away from you and the kids? Has he been constantly harping about how he needs “space” this summer so he can do his own thing? Exactly where is it that he wants to go? And who is he going with? What is it that he wants to do that doesn’t include you? The separate vacation scheme is a common ploy summer cheaters use to lay the groundwork for a summer affair. He could be living it up in Las Vegas with his lover while you’re vacationing somewhere else. If he’s too eager, too insistent, or lobbying a little too hard for time alone, you might want to re-think your summer plans. Employ some of the checks and balances suggested in the Summer Infidelity tip sheet, so you can keep things on the up and up.
Counterfeit Conventions and Bogus Business Trips
In some lines of work, business travel can be used to camouflage a cheating man’s summer affair. If it’s customary for him to travel, he can easily invent a counterfeit convention or a bogus business trip. However, even legitimate trips can give him an opportunity to cheat far from the sight of prying eyes. And if he needs extra time, he can just tack on a few days to allow for fun and games. A summer conference or trade show is the perfect place to pursue a little hanky-panky on the side. And if he’s traveling with female workmates or business associates, he may not have to look far to find a willing partner for a short-term summer affair. The good news is, the Summer Infidelity tip sheet gives you an easy way to check things out, or short-circuit his summer plans.
Fictitious fishing trips
Cheating husbands and boyfriends have been known to disguise a vacation with their summer sweetheart by making you think he’s on a male-bonding-type trip with other guys. Men know that deep-sea fishing, rock-climbing, white-water rafting and other rugged outdoor activities or extreme sports are unlikely to be questioned by the women in their lives. If he misrepresents the tryst with his mistress as a “guys-only” trip with no women allowed, he won’t have to worry about you asking to tag along. But is he really hiking the Appalachian Trail with his buddies? Or is he soaking up sun in St.Thomas with his summer love?”
What You Can Do To About Summer Affairs
In my next post, I’ll tell you what to do if you see signs of a summer fling about to develop, or if you see signs of summer infidelity already taking place. If you’re not sure how to spot the signs, refer to the Summer Infidelity tip sheet (it’s free). You might also want to read the summer infidelity article posted at www.InfidelityAdvice.com It tells how 3 wives discovered their husband’s summer affairs, and how one wife successfully dealt with her husband’s request for separate summer vacations. The Summer Infidelity Tip Sheet also contains other suggestions on how you can short-circuit or prevent summer infidelity.
FREE Summer Infidelity Tip Sheet
To request a FREE copy of the Summer Infidelity tips sheet so you can safeguard your marriage or relationship from a summer affair, e-mail SummerInfidelity@gmail.com with the words “SI Tip Sheet-B” in the subject line.
Thursday, June 21, 2007
Today is the first day of summer – the cheating season. But lots of women aren’t aware that infidelity and extramarital affairs increase during this time of the year. For those who view this statement with skepticism, I suggest you talk with a few private investigators who specialize in infidelity investigations. Most will tell you that infidelity investigations peak around Christmas, Valentine’s Day, and during the summer months.
There are 3 types of men who tend to have summer affairs.
- The recreational cheater who considers infidelity a summer sport.
For all three types of cheating men, (and the types may overlap) summer is the ideal time to initiate an affair. These are men who wouldn’t ordinarily cheat on their wives or girlfriends at any other time of the year. But they eagerly look forward to having a summer fling. Could your man be a summer cheater? Could he be gearing up to have a summer affair? Tomorrow I’ll talk about some of the tactics cheating men use to hide their summer affairs.
Meanwhile, as a precaution, you might want to request a FREE copy of the Summer Infidelity tip sheet I compiled. It tells you how to spot the signs of summer infidelity, and gives you suggestions on how to safeguard your marriage or relationship from a summer affair. E-mail SummerInfidelity@gmail.com with the words “Tip Sheet-B” in the subject line.