FREE Infidelity Tip Sheets and Infidelity Reports

FREE infidelity tip sheets and infidelity reports with practical, no-nonsense, immediately usable infidelity advice for those who need it most.

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The 21 Major Categories of Infidelity Signs
Detailed descriptions of each of the 21 major categories of telltale signs of infidelity which indicate a cheating mate. Also lists the number of infidelity signs are in each category. Each category contains from 19 to 92 specific signs of infidelity. The future of your marriage may one day depend on your ability to recognize the warning signs in time. Send an e-mail to InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with “major categories – bo” in the subject line.

5 Things You SHOULDN’T Do If He’s Cheating on You
If you’ve just discovered your husband is cheating on you there are 5 mistakes you shouldn’t make. Even if you’re not sure yet what you’re going do about his cheating, this tip sheet will help you avoid doing something that could sabotage the final course of action you eventually decide to take. Whether you end up leaving him or staying together and trying to work things out, you’ll want to avoid making these 5 mistakes. Send an e-mail to InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with “5 things-bo” in the subject line.

10 Things You Didn’t Know About Signs of Infidelity
These little-known facts about signs of infidelity will surprise you, even if you consider yourself knowledgeable about infidelity, cheating husbands or wives, and extramarital affairs. Since infidelity can happen to anyone at anytime, everyone should be familiar with the infidelity information in this sheet. Send an e-mail to mailto:InfidelityInfo@gmail.comwith “10 things – bo” in the subject line.

Same Sex Infidelity Tip Sheet
Could you be an unsuspecting victim of same sex infidelity? Part 1 of the same sex infidelity tip sheet describes a discreet 3-step procedure for finding out if your husband or significant other is sexually involved with other men. Part 2 explains what to do, how to confront him, and where to turn for help. Send an e-mail to SameSex16@gmail.com with “Same Sex 16 –bo” in the subject line.

Emotional Infidelity Quiz
Emotional infidelity can eventually turn into sexual infidelity. What starts out as an innocent friendship with a member of the opposite sex can quickly cross the line. Is your friendship (or your partner’s friendship) with someone of the opposite sex dangerously close to becoming an emotional affair? Take this quiz with (or without) your partner and find out. Send an e-mail to mailto:InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with “Emotional Infidelity Quiz” – bo” in the subject line.

Potential Cheater’s Quiz
Some men are more likely than others to cheat on their mates because of their background, personal beliefs, past history, or certain character traits. This quick, but accurate 7-question quiz tells you if the man in your life is a potential cheater who’s prone to infidelity. Send an e-mail tomailto:InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with “Cheater’s Quiz - bo” in the subject line.

9 Signs of Financial Infidelity
According to two recent surveys, financial infidelity, or dishonesty about spending habits, is a problem in a third of all marriages and committed relationships. In many cases, financial infidelity is a sign of sexual infidelity. This tip sheet tells you nine signs to look for if you suspect your mate of being dishonest about his or her financial affairs. Send an e-mail to InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with “financial - bo in the subject line.

How Wives with Cheating Husbands Can Gain the Upper Hand
Many women put up with cheating husbands because they feel they have no choice, or because they don’t know what else to do. This tip sheet contains practical suggestions on how you can discreetly work behind the scenes to protect yourself emotionally, legally, financially and sexually, and gain the upper hand. It will help you minimize much of the damage infidelity can cause. Send an e-mail to InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with “Upper Hand – bo” in the subject line.

The Down Low Dozen Tip Sheet
A 2-part tip sheet describing a discreet 3-step method Black women can use to find out if their husbands or boyfriends are on the “down low” or engaging in same sex infidelity. Part 1 tells what signs to look for. Part 2 contains practical suggestions on what to do if you find out you’re in a down low situation. Send an e-mail to DownLowDozen@gmail.com with “dozen - bo” in the subject line. (NOTE: same basic information as the Same Sex 16 tip sheet, but geared specifically to African-American women dealing with Black men on the down low.)

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About Ruth Houston:

Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, which documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. Ruth has been quoted in USA Today, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, Cosmopolitan, the New York Post, the New York Daily News, the Chicago Tribune, the Toronto Sun, the Houston Chronicle, Newsday, AM New York, Lava Life, MSN Lifestyle, iVillage, Netscape Love, Yahoo Personals, UPI, Reuters, FoxNews.com, ABCNews.com, Entertainment Online, Hollywood Heat and numerous other print and online media.

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Why Peter Cook Blames Christie Brinkley for His Affair

In an interview with Barbara Walters, scheduled to air on Friday on ABC's "20/20," Peter Cook claims he cheated on Christie because as he says, "I was seeking a connection I could not find in my own marriage.”

As an infidelity expert frequently called on by the media to comment on celebrity infidelity and other infidelity issues in the news, I feel obligated to speak out on this lame, but newly popular excuse that Peter Cook is using to justify the marital misbehavior that led to his divorce.

It doesn’t surprise me in the least that Peter Cook is trying to blame his ex-wife, Christie Brinkley for the affair he had, which led to their divorce.

He’s latched onto the latest excuse that cheating husbands are using to blame their wives for their extramarital affairs.

Cook has taken his cue straight from the highly controversial new infidelity book The Truth About Cheating – Why Men Stray and What You Can Do About It. He’s parroting the views of author and marriage counselor Gary Neuman, that emotional dissatisfaction is the main reason men cheat.

Neuman’s theory ( based on interviews with 100 cheating husbands) is that men cheat because they feel unappreciated – because they don’t get enough praise, attention or ego stroking from their wives.

You can see why this excuse would appeal to a narcissist like Peter Cook.

By latching onto this newly introduced, widely publicized, and completely incorrect reason (excuse) for why men cheat, Cook, a confirmed narcissist, (the opinion of the court appointed psychiatrist in his divorce trial) obviously saw this as way to thrust himself into the spotlight which he seems to love.

Peter Cook’s Search for an Emotional Connection

In his interview with Barbara Walters, Cook says he was seeking a connection he could not find in his marriage because the emotional aspect of their lives had changed. Does he really expect anyone to believe he found this emotional connection with a teenager less than half his age? Or that he found it by spending $3600 a month on internet porn, or by broadcasting photos of himself masturbating all across the web?

When asked what he wanted, Cook replied that he wanted “a little acknowledgement, a little attention, a little thank you every now and then for my efforts, for the amount of time I took to care for her and my family, for the wealth I was building.”

I followed the Brinkley-Cook trial very closely and was interviewed about it several times. Let’s not forget that this statement comes from a man who owned a successful architectural firm in the Hamptons, yet never paid for anything during the 10 years he was married to Christie Brinkley ( Christie’s own words, not mine) – a man who even charged the Mother’s Day flowers he bought Christie to her account.

Yet this same man gave his teenage mistress $15,000 for a down payment on a new car, and paid her $300,000 in hush money to keep her mouth shut after their affair was discovered, and left cash gifts of hundreds of dollars at a time hidden underneath rocks and behind picture frames for his young lover to find. Exactly whose wealth was this cheater trying to build? Sounds like his mistress to me.

The “Blame Your Wife” Bandwagon

Cook isn’t the only cheating husband to jump on the “ Blame Your Wife” bandwagon. Since the publication of The Truth about Cheating and the author’s two highly publicized interviews with Oprah, numerous cheating men have latched on to this flimsy excuse of “emotional dissatisfaction” to justify their affairs.

So many of you called or e-mailed me since The Truth about Cheating came out, wanting to know if you were to blame for your husband’s affair, I wrote a special blog post to answer your questions and ease your minds. Click here to read this post entitled Are Wives to Blame When Their Husbands Cheat?

Neuman’s book, The Truth about Cheating, contains some valid suggestions on how women can strengthen and improve the quality of their marriages, but the book seems to have created more problems than it has solved.

Besides giving cheating husbands a new excuse – emotional dissatisfaction - to explain away their infidelity, Neuman implies that the wives of these cheaters are to blame their affairs. How so? By promoting the idea that if you keep your husband happy by constantly stroking his ego, giving him all the sex he wants, and catering to his every whim, he’s guaranteed not to cheat.

There are two problems with that:

1. While there are many things a you can do to improve the quality of your marriage, there is absolutely nothing you can do that will guarantee 100% that your husband will never cheat. By saying that certain behavior on your part will keep your husband from having an affair, is to imply that it’s your fault if your husband cheats. And that’s not true.

2. Keeping your husband happy is not the answer because happy husbands cheat too. Just this year there were three separate studies published in medical journals which found that happily married husbands still cheat on their wives, and that even good marriages are susceptible to affaairs. The article on my website, www.InfidelityAdvice.com entitled Happy Husbands Cheat, Too, goes into more detail about this topic, and cites four infidelity studies that prove this point.

Neuman says his book is about empowering women rather than blaming them, but I have to disagree. That’s not the message that’s being sent. You don’t empower a woman by making her feel that it's her fault her husband had an affair. Nor do you empower women by providing men like Peter Cook with flimsy excuses to justify why they have extramarital affairs.

Some men are more likely to cheat than others. To find out if your husband is one of these potential cheaters, request a free copy of the 7-question Potential Cheater’s Quiz by e-mailing InfidelityInfo@gmail.com with Potential Cheater’s Quiz - b in the subject line.

For more information about infidelity, cheating husbands and extramarital affairs, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com

Happy Husbands Cheat on Their Wives Too

Never think that if your husband is happy, or you have a good marriage that you are immune to infidelity.

One of the best-kept secrets about cheating husbands, infidelity and extramarital affairs is that happy husbands cheat, too

Many people believe that happily married men don’t have extramarital affairs.

If you believe this myth, and your husband has an affair, it almost guarantees that you’ll be the last to know.

Research Proves Even Happy Husbands Cheat

This information may surprise you, but research has proven time and time again that a man’s happiness, or the quality of his marriage have no bearing on whether or not he’ll have an extramarital affair.

Not every husband who cheats is dissatisfied with his marriage or unhappy with his mate. You can see that from the two studies cited below.

● Early research done by the late Dr. Shirley Glass, often referred to as the “Godmother of infidelity research”, revealed that when a husband cheats, it doesn't mean he has problems in his marriage. Over half the cheating husbands in Dr. Glass’s landmark infidelity study, said they were happy with their wives

● A study in the May 2008 Journal of Marriage and Family reported that despite couples describing their marriages as being “ pretty happy” or “very happy,” one spouse still had an extramarital affair.

If you need more proof, 2 other studies are cited in the article on my website (http://www.infidelityadvice.com/ ) entitled Happy Husbands Cheat, Too.

The research proves that happily married men do indeed cheat on their wives, and that even good marriages are susceptible to extramarital affairs. Unlike female infidelity, male infidelity is not related to unhappiness or dissatisfaction with the cheating husband’s marriage or his mate.

Yet people continue to perpetuate the myth that good marriages are immune to infidelity and happy husbands don’t have affairs.

What Does This Mean to You?

Believing in this myth will give you a false sense of security, and practically guarantee that if your husband ever cheats, you’ll probably be the last to know.

50% to 70% of men cheat on their mates. Your husband could be one of these 38 to 53 million cheating men.

2/3 of the wives being cheated on have no idea their husbands are having an affair. You could be one of these 26 million unsuspecting wives, if you take it for granted that you and your marriage are immune to infidelity. Believing in this myth will make you oblivious to the telltale signs. Never forget that infidelity can strike anyone, at any time.

Precautions You Can Take

Familiarize yourself with the early warning signs of infidelity. Many of them are subtle and easy to overlook. The future of your marriage could depend on your ability to spot the signs of infidelity in time. If you spot the telltale signs early enough you may be able to stop infidelity in its tracks.

Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs lists practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs women usually overlook. (click here to order)

The free tip sheet, “21 Ways to Spot a Cheating Mate,” can also help you spot the signs of infidelity. For your free copy, e-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with 21 Ways –b in the subject line.

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